For many women, especially those of my generation navigating the professional world (hello Gen-Xs!), saying “no” can feel tricky. Many of us grew up being told to be pleasant and helpful, leading us to take on too much – whether it’s endless chores at home or extra tasks at work that aren’t truly ours. This constant “yes” can leave us feeling drained and undervalued in the long run, impacting both our personal well-being and professional effectiveness. In other words, we can burnout.
But here’s a secret: learning the art of setting boundaries isn’t about being difficult; it’s about being truly effective. It’s a vital tool for looking after your energy and focusing on what truly matters. When you say “no” to things that don’t fit, you’re actually saying a big “yes” to your own priorities and long-term impact – and to that lovely peace of mind.
Why is Saying 'No' So Challenging for Women?
Let’s tak this to the planning events field. You’re the one in charge, juggling many different people and their ideas. Everyone wants their wishes met. But sometimes, a client or colleague might suggest a change that seems small to them but would cause a huge upset to your plans, with little real benefit. In these moments, saying ‘no’ is tough. You want everyone to be happy, but your job is to make the event a success, based on your experience.
It’s not about being bossy. It’s about protecting the project and getting the best outcome. How do we do it? Be clear and confident in your decision. Explain the impact of their request, not just why you’re saying ‘no’. Your professional experience is your best guide.
Embrace your right to set boundaries and confidently say “no.” It’s a powerful way to respect yourself, boost your career, and ensure your best work shines through. You’re not just managing tasks; you’re cultivating your own path to a more fulfilling and impactful journey.